12 ways to get what you want from life!
- Become More Confident
- various techniques for increasing self-confidence will be emphasized including doing away with the "rating" game by which you judge yourself and others, learning how to view life as a process of continual growth and fun, learning to try new and "adventurous" experience.
- Keeping Cool When Things Get Hot
- When you experience intense anger in family, work and social settings it debilitates you physically and psychologically, and threatens or destroys business and personal relationships. You can learn to understand the causes of your anger, focusing on impulsiveness, low frustration tolerance, and high demands. You will learn active techniques for self-control and self-management and how to use these skills to help you get more out of life.
- How to Live With and Without Anger
- Hostility is one of the most common human emotions: and it is Utopian to think you can be entirely free of it. You will be shown how to live successfully with anger and refrain from putting yourself down for feeling or expressing it. More importantly, you will learn how to minimize your feelings of hostility, hate and resentment, and thereby save yourself immense trouble and rejection. Bring some of your problems of anger and temper flare-ups to session and find some practical and effective solutions.
- How Not to Play Other People's Games
- Do you often find yourself feeling irritated with other people? Learn the three principles of human interaction. Also learn the rules of assertion. The reason may very well be that you are letting other people set the guidelines and establish the rules by which you are living your life. Learn how to devise your game plan strategies for living a more self-directed life, including rational self-management techniques.
- Overcoming Procrastination
- Chronic procrastinators experience feelings of inadequacy and frustration which are caused by their inability to begin or complete a project. Using many innovative approaches, you will be helped to stop "putting off today what can be done tomorrow."
- How Not to Feel Guilty
- Do you find yourself doing things you do not want to do because you know you would feel guilty if you did not do them? Do you stop yourself from doing things you really want to do just to avoid feeling guilty afterwards? Guilt is an unnecessary and unpleasant emotion that gets in the way of enjoyable, self-directed living. It can affect the choice we make in life - from how to spend Saturday afternoons to whether or not to have children. You will learn to identify the attitudes that create the feeling of quilt, and learn specific rational methods for changing these attitudes.
- How to Get What You Want From Life
- Life can be rich and rewarding - if you know what you want and how to get it. You will learn how to identify your wants, how to differentiate between "healthy" and "unhealthy" wants, find out what prevents you from achieving the healthy desires and learn how to eliminate unhealthy ones. Specific homework assignments emphasizing risk-taking and assertiveness skills will be emphasized.
- Dealing With "Difficult" People
- We have all had the experience of trying to cope with people who behave in hostile, complaining, aggressive or all-knowing manners. You will learn rational techniques and assertiveness training to help you communicate more effectively with these "difficult" individuals. You will learn how "difficultness" is refined by your beliefs and, consequently, by your emotional reactions to certain behaviors of other people. Modes of communication which frequently evoke "different' behavior are contrasted with assertive modes of communication which are less likely to have this affect.
- Building Emotional Muscle
- Emotional independence and emotional strength lead to personal growth. Many of us want to be emotionally independent but remain emotionally dependent because of our anxieties and fears of suffering emotional pain and distress. Learn to understand and discover the reasons you fear emotional independence as much as you desire it. Learn to overcome feelings of anxiety and guilt about desiring independence, increase your tolerance for emotional distress and pain, and decrease emotional distress wherever possible.
- Overcoming Shyness
- Learn to over come shyness in social situations. Self-defeating beliefs and attitudes which foster shyness and loneliness will be explained. Methods of neutralizing these tendencies through vigorous self-questioning and affirmative action will be explored.
- How to Cope With and Reduce Anxiety
- Feelings of anxiety are part of being human and living in a world where there is no certainty. This will help you increase your awareness of the causes of anxiety and learn how to utilize various cognitive-behavior techniques to cope with and reduce its intensity. Coping self-statements, imagery techniques, and learning to reduce your level of physiological arousal are among that which you will learn
- How to Organize Your Life
Do you have difficulty organizing your time and your life? Do you find yourself dealing with things haphazardly, without planning? Do you miss opportunities for pleasure or career advancement because you are poorly organized? Learn how to create order out of chaos. You will be presented with both psychological and practical aspects of becoming more organized in your daily life. The result - more time and energy to enjoy life and act in your self-interest.
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