DIVORCE
And it happens all to often, and the consequences affect so many. And so many of which are innocent victims of the actions of others.
Left behind are the hurts and pains of all , many, if not most are not well prepared to deal with what they are faced with.
Help is needed to put lives back together as much as possible, for The Mother, The Father, The Children, and the rest of the Family, and the others affected.
Help is needed to get past the feelings of hostility and resentment that leaves so many so confused, from custody battles, to the visitation rights, to the financial and property settlements.
Almost no one is prepared to deal with these issues, nor do they feel a desire to. And when "forced" upon they are often dealt with inadequately.
Granted, I can't fix the past, but You, and I can do something about how it is all dealt with emotionally!
When not properly dealt with emotionally, the outcome is often unnecessarily unproductive and the consequences can be lasting for many years to come.
THIS NEED NOT BE !
Rejection is an awful feeling ! Rejection of others is one thing . Rejection of yourself is quite another ! And can be just as devastating a feeling for a man, as it is for a woman, and in some cases more so.
And yes, What about the children ? And their ability to adjust to that, that is sooo foreign to their thinking ! No matter how much you may not like each other, you both are still their parent ! Yet the parents actions have PROFOUND consequences to their lives ! Consequences and Actions the little ones have little chance of understanding. You as the parent most often don't understand, what chance do they ???
And most often, with all the emotion involved, much of this gets pushed aside, and is inadequately dealt with. You go to the doctor for treatment of illnesses, You go to the lawyers and spend large amounts of money, and time for legal advise. But how much of an investment do you put into the nurture and protection of emotional stability ?
And what of the confusion of personality that brought about the separation to begin with ! And the other contributing factors that are not in place or understood ? And what of the accepting of that, that may not have a resolution ?
Anger, Hostility, Guilt, Shame, Resentment, Inferior feelings are all energy consuming feelings you can learn to minimize and/or eliminate and get on with living.
Very, Very, Very, few people are
able to do this on their own, which is why I am in this line of work! I do not
look at what I do as being a burden, but rather as a rewarding experience in
contributing to others well being.
Good luck.
Darrell.........