ANGER MANAGEMENT
AND IT'S BED PARTNERS, RESENTMENT AND HOSTILITY
This is about "circling the wagons" and putting a stop to the abuse that is exchanged between parties.
It is about changing attitudes, as well as beliefs that you hold, and that you use to give yourself the excuse to justify this behavior .
This is something that affects most everyone, some much more than others. The reasons that support it are many, and also varied. The destruction left behind often leaves scars that without professional help linger on for years.
MAKE NO DOUBT ABOUT IT THIS IS A SERIOUS PROBLEM IN MANY PEOPLES LIVES.
FORTUNATELY SOLUTIONS ARE AVAILABLE, AND YOU CAN LEARN TO PUT THEM TO USE IN YOUR LIFE !
Of all the emotions felt, these are the ones that bring about the majority of the emotional difficulty people experience in life.
Disruptions in relationships, between loved ones, between other family members, between siblings, between parents and children, between co-workers, between superiors, between people in public as well as people on the highway.
Anger/resentment/hostility often escalates disagreements into all out war, from yelling/screaming to physical violence, and even death! It is unforgiving, discourages communication, sets unrealistic boundaries and establishes 'right' and 'wrong'. Often it becomes more important to be right, than it is to be happy.
Because it is so unwelcome and disruptive it frequently finds ways to hide, and has a passive presence, all the time remaining in a stew until it feels 'it's' time to come out, and often creeps in at some of the most inopportune times! To attempt to contain or control this emotion is most often a 'lost' cause, and the action of doing so does nothing to challenge what brought it about to begin with! This is a complex issue that if often held in place with thinking and judgments that can be very resistant to recognize, relate to or understand and modify!
Lifestyles and events that bring this emotion out are many and originate from a variety of sources, many of them not easily understood. Anger is also an emotion that person can find a 'hundred' different ways to 'justify' and leave the accused to feel accountable for having caused it!
Anger can be expressed in many different ways, from the 'most' subtle to the most 'direct'. By innuendo to inference of gesture or action. Like a volcano, it can simmer for long periods, or it can be spontaneous in it's eruption!
This is not an emotion that will serve you or others best interest!
YOU CAN MODIFY THE WAY IT EFFECTS YOUR LIFE AS WELL AS THE WAY IT EFFECTS OTHERS !
Firstly we have to define what it is and how it plays it's self out, and examine what feeds it! Examine the outcome when it is used and when it is not!
This is just a short brief to give some insight to the complexity of this confusing emotion. An emotion that you can learn to minimize or live without. I often hear the protests "You/I can't do that" and I say "yes" you can, and you can do so effectively, and without giving in or giving away. As a matter of fact your command or control in any relationship will be greatly strengthened by demonstrating that you have control of your emotions when put to the test.
FOLLOWING ARE SOME OF THE TOPICS OF DISCUSSION
Must You Feel Angry ?
How You Create Your Own Anger ?
Should We Avoid All Anger ?
If Not Anger, What ?
The Insanity Of Anger.
Understanding Your Self-Angering Philosophies.
Disputing Your Self-Angering Philosophies.
Making It Work
Of all emotions, this, the most debilitating of them all is sometimes the most misunderstood as well as resistant to change. But you can do this, that I promise. Contact me for information and guidance as to how to make this work for you. I have available proven methods that do work, and they will work for you. Contact me at. stressbusters@charter.net
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