The path way through childhood is so full of attention grabbing occurrences, as well as from all different angles, we all need to be a little in awe that the little ones are as able as they are to find their way through as well as they do!
Then take in consideration the variables of discipline, along with the inconsistency of application, and then mix in the conflicting messages that often come into play, and the challenge becomes big for the young ones understand.
Into the mix are the cultural mores and beliefs that have been handed down without being questioned, and disagreements of outcome become inevitable. Adding to this is the merging of the minds of parents and their differing ideas and methods of child rearing.
And all of this is before consideration is given of the biological influence on the Childs behavior. SOME children are simply 'born' to have a "propensity" to behave in given ways, (that is, it is easier for them to go that way, than it is for them not to')
Some come into life 'calm' and 'quiet', others start out being 'fuss buckets' from day one! THEY did not 'learn' to be the way they are! It is simply the way they came.
Parents need to learn how to adapt to the needs of the child, and learn that 'one' form of discipline does not fit all ! Each is an individual and this needs to be recognized !
Most parents have difficulty identifying all of what the child presents, as well as to recognize and implement more useful and beneficial ways to adapt to the Childs needs.
And then there are those children with various disabilities of learning and adapting, and that have special needs. And those few that have differing mental and physical impairments.
Solutions are available to meet these varying needs as well as ways to apply them when needed.
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Emphasis in the following, plus more!
· Thoughts on Emotional Disturbance
· Erroneous Beliefs of Childhood Management
· Patterns of Kindness and Firmness
· Fear
· Fear of People
· Fear of Failure
· Fear of Injury
· Fear of Ridicule and Rejection
· Childhood Anger
· Children with Conduct Problems
· Worry and Depression
· Discipline
· Lack of Self-Discipline
· Undesirable Habits
· Problems with Achievement
· Special Instructions for Parents