FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
I AM EXPERIENCING A LOT OF ANXIETY. I FEEL AS THOUGH I'M BEING PULLED IN MANY DIRECTIONS AT THE SAME TIME! IS THERE ANYTHING THAT I CAN DO RIGHT NOW TO HELP ME CHANGE THE WAY I FEEL?
Firstly, if you feel suicidal, call "911" immediately, or your local hospital ! DON'T Hesitate, just do it!
To further answer your question: Yes there are things you can do to get relief, and quickly! And ways you can change your thinking so as not to get back in so much trouble in the future. It's more individual as well as involved to go into detail here but if you will give me a call we can talk! My phone is answered < 24/7 > and the number is < 817-944-1799 >.
IS THIS A RELIGIOUS ORGANIZATION ?
I am not affiliated with any religious or other organization. What I offer is a rational, common sense approach to learning how to minimize or eliminate emotional disturbance and distraction. It is about learning how to think straight and does not take away from any of your spiritual beliefs. In the past you were taught how to read and to write, this is about how to take charge of your emotions. When emotions take over it undermines ones confidence of having any control or influence of the outcome and anxiety, indecision and stress creeps in. Thinking gets "tranquilized" if you will. This is about staying on track and /or getting back on track if need be. Since most of the time you are going to feel as you think, this is about thinking straight.
I HAVE PREVIOUSLY BEEN IN THERAPY AND HAVE BEEN DIAGNOSED AS POSSIBLY HAVING A PERSONALITY DISORDER. IS WHAT YOU PRACTICE HELP, IF THIS IS SO ?
Yes! What I do is quite effective in this area. Firstly you may or may not have a PD. If so, you want to remember this is a condition. And a condition is not you! Much like diabetes, it is a condition that requires an extra discipline to keep in control such as diet, weight control and exercise. The same goes for personality disorder. You may have to work harder and longer than the next person and sometimes the rewards will not be as frequent or as great, but with coaching and work you can achieve the quality of life you crave! Past success gives proof to this.
DO YOU USE FREUDIAN PSYCHOANALYSIS
No I do not. Certainly not in the classical sense, as it has been shown to be a very inefficient method for finding solutions for some of the more deep seated emotional issues many people are faced with. Newer and more efficient methods have been developed/invented during the last half century that have been validated and scientifically proven to be far more effective for short term as well as long term. These treatment methods have evolved from the pioneering works of Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck and now form the basis of all modern psychology world wide.
I AM IN MY THIRTIES AND I HAVE A SIBLING THAT HAS MANY MENTAL PROBLEMS, AND MY MOTHER HAS BEEN ON MEDICATION FOR SOME TIME, AND MY FATHERS ACTIONS ARE SOMETIMES A LITTLE WEIRD. DOES THIS MEAN THAT THERE IS LIKELY SOMETHING AMISS WITH ME ?
Thank you for asking such an important question; so often it is the questions we ask ourselves and the answers we give that adds to confusion already felt! Your question is a very important one in that, "who" do you go to for an unbiased answer that will properly address the question asked? Other family members and close friends are most likely not well enough informed to speak knowledgeable in response to the question, and for one of them to be objective could be an unrealistic expectation.
It is soooooo easy for most people to leap when giving address to your question. I shall try not to do that. Aristotle could have a field day here. For beginners, the issues with other family members quite likely has little if anything to do with you, outside of learned or adapted behavior and thinking. Assuming that your sibling, male or female, younger or older, full, half or adopted, indeed has the mental issues you have indicated, that does not mean that they "run in the family", it only means that that individual has an impairment!
In some rare cases, and when there is "traceable" evidence from generation to generation to generation and there is evidence of a linear pattern would the hereditary connection be given credence. Genetics plays a roll in all this and they for sure do not always follow the same path or have the same outcome. I have encountered families of ten or more with same parents, same home, same schools, same teachers, same church and have "one" child that just didn't "fit" This is a mental handicap, no different than one that a person is born with, such as a hearing deficiency or one that is born with an undeveloped limb! And how do you explain that twelve children of the same parents grew to five feet teen or taller and one never reached five feet?
There is an element called genetics, that plays a role in the outcome, and often there is no rhyme or reason to how it plays it's self out. This is where so much doubt and confusion enters into the picture. Many times the mind runs amuck when it can't find an answer and it goes on a witch hunt until it finds the most plausible answer. Then it gets busy "creating" evidence to support "the plausible" answer until it is held as a truth.
Back to your question; are you afflicted? The answer is, highly unlikely! I suspect that faced with your siblings issues, along with the confusion of your parents behavior, it has certainly left you with some doubts about your own feelings and emotions. Leaving you in fear as to how other might perceive you if you let them "get to close".
There are also several clichés that plays a strong influence on thinking and feeling. The one "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree" and "Birds of the feather flock together". Both of these clichés are inflammatory! And most often leaves behind the unspoken message of being a victim and "I can't change the way I feel"! In near all cases I have found that these feelings were acquired by inference, and they are clearly changeable. With some determination and work they can be successfully dealt with! There is no need for you to have to live with this cloud overhead! It may ask for some extra effort to clear the sky but you certainly can do it.
I didn't intend for this answer to be so drawn out but your question ask for a rational and realistic answer.
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